Okay let’s get real now and talk about sex! Everywhere you look, someone is trying to tell you something different about sex. Some religions ask that you wait until marriage, but being honest could you really wait until marriage to have sex? Sex is a complicated issue and deciding if you’re really ready and, with whom you want to have sex with are tough decisions that you’re going to have to make on your own. Your parents may forbid it and your friends may warn against it, but in the end it’s still your decision. Consider all of the benefits and the consequences, and you might want to ask yourself:
How do you know when you’ve fallen in love, or if this is the person you want to have a sexual relationship with? There is no answer for that question because when you’re in love or you’re ready to have sex your going to do it no matter what. Truly you need to look for the answers inside yourself; look at how you feel about this person. Do you trust them? Do you enjoy being around them? Do you want to be intimate with them? Would you feel comfortable being naked in front of them? Lastly, do you even love the person you’re thinking about having sex with? True love can last. It may start out like infatuation, but pretty soon the difference will become clear. Loving someone means knowing who they are – their good and their not-so-good qualities. It’s respecting (and often sharing) their values, choices and feelings…the glue of an awesome relationship.
Love means respecting space and time – knowing that your partner is emotionally there, even when they can’t be physically beside you. You may or may not choose to start a sexual relationship with the one you love. Remember that there are many ways to express your affection for someone; sex is just one of those ways. Choosing not to have sex doesn’t mean you don’t love each other. It just means that you have found other ways to express your feelings!
Now for some people sex is nothing but pleasure. You just do it because it feels good, but that’s not the right choice into why you should have sex with someone. Understand the choice that you’re willing to take.
You’ve probably heard all of this before… the safe sex talk, or why you should always use condoms, birth control pills and the rest. And let’s face it, talking about diseases and infections isn’t exactly the most pleasant topic – it’s not like you’re going to just strike up a conversation on the bus about genital warts! But if one thing is true of sexually transmitted infections, it’s this: It’s a lot more pleasant (and a lot less embarrassing) to talk about them than it is to actually get one.
The big thing you need to know is that the easiest way to get sexually transmitted infections is by having unprotected sex, and using a condom is the most effective way to prevent them.
But in order to fully understand this and how to protect yourself, the first step is to learn about the different types of STD’s because that’s something you should know about, what causes them, how to spot them, and what to do if you catch one. I understand that sex is pleasure for some people, but I mean before you do, make sure you know what you’re doing.