A healthy relationship means that both you and your partner are..
You talk openly about problems without shouting or yelling. You listen to one another, hear each other out, respect each other’s opinions, and are willing to compromise.
You value each other as you are. Culture, beliefs, opinions and boundaries are valued. You treat each other in a way that demonstrates the high esteem you hold for one another.
You both trust each other, and the trust has been earned.
You are both honest with each other but can still choose to keep certain things private. For example, you both know that it is important to be honest about things that affect or involve the relationship and still know that it is also ok to keep certain things private.
You make decisions together and you hold each other to the same standards.
Enjoy Personal Space
You both enjoy spending time apart and respect when one of you voices a need for space.
Make consensual sexual decisions
You talk openly about sexual decisions together. You both consent to sexual activity and can talk about what is ok and what isn’t. If you’re having sex you talk about possible consequences together, such as pregnancy or STD’s. You decide together how to address these things, such as through condoms and other birth control methods.
Unhealthy relationship starts when even just one of you is…
Problems are discussed calmly, or not talked about at all. You don’t listen to each other or try to compromise.
One or both partners are inconsiderate toward the other. One or both partners don’t treat each other in a way that shows they care.
There is suspicion that your partner is doing things behind your back, or your partner is suspicious of your loyalty without reason.
Trying to take control
One or both partners sees their desires or decisions as more important. One or both partners is focused only on getting their own way.
Feeling smothered or forgetting to spend time with others
So much time is spent together that one partner is beginning to feel uncomfortable. Or sometimes both partners spend so much time together that they ignore friends, family or other things that used to be important to them.
Pressuring the other into sexual activity
One partner is trying to convince the other that the relationship should become more sexual. Or both partners are consensually sexually active with each other but aren’t addressing the possible consequences.